I am sorry I have not wrote for a few days but, its been busy and sad, as our nana passed away. So this post is for her, and our family!
Jennie was an amazing women. She lived through so much in her life time. The wars, depression, and being a mother to 5 kids. The stuff she seen and went through made her full of wisdom and advice, and Believe me tons of opinions lol. If she had an opinion you knew it! She was someone we could all depend on, no matter what the situation.
She was all about family, and No one could make her think that her family was anything but perfect and amazing! Let me Just add she did an amazing Job raising the most perfect family around! Each and everyone of them are amazing!
We have all had to come together to support each other in this hard time and I know Nana is looking down in awe, seeing all of this and is proud of how everyone has been there for everyone and how we have come through strong and as one!
She was everything to so many people and in such a tiny package:) She was honest, out spoken, stubborn, full of advice and old stories, Her smile could light a room and no matter what the situation was she always wanted to make sure all the kids in the family were taken care of! She would have helped anyone of us in any situation even if she couldn’t , She would have found a way! She was also a very strong lady, she knew what she wanted when she wanted it and no one was going to stop her once she made up her mind.
I have been told that I am a lot like her! That to me is the best compliment I could have ever gotten especially at a time like this! For someone to tell me I am strong, opinionated, stubborn, an amazing mom, and family means everything to me(which is what she was), Who could have asked for a better compliment than that! Oh we also both have 5 kids and married two of the most hot tempered men on the planet but also the sweetest men around! I am proud to be exactly what I am and Nana loved that I could handle her grandson lol and even put up her fist one time when we were talking about him, making sure I knew how to keep him in line!! Cracked me up!! She loved me just like I loved her, She loved me so much that weeks before she passed she gave me something I will cherish forever. Not only was she adamant about me having it, but gave it to me and then told me to make sure I pass it on and keep it in the family:) It’s her China that I love and will keep forever! knowing that she gave it to me with clear thoughts and instructions on what to do with it means the world to me, it made me know that to her I was family and she trusted me! I sent her pictures of all of it set up and put together and then she said no one better touch it lol only me!! I told her NO one gets to touch it not even Tony lol. She said good! LOL!!
I remember the first time I ever met her, she hugged me like I was part of her family forever and told me she loved me, and then the look on her face when we told her we where going to get married (priceless) She was so happy! Another thing that I loved about her was she was always so happy to come to the house just to see the kids and visit, besides that her honest raw sense of humor was awesome! She would have us rolling all day! One of the first things she always did to me every time she seen me was give me a huge hug, and then grab my necklaces! I always wear different ones and she always noticed and loved them all! I will miss her and thank of her everyday! But I know she is more than happy where she is now and is doing her most favorite thing in the world, watching over all her family!!
- Let the Memory Live Again (queerspeak.wordpress.com)
- Will Nana Love Me? Forever, and Ever and Always (adoptionchoices.wordpress.com)
I try to do at least one night a week that I make family fun night. I don’t have a set day of the week during the summer, I just keep it random for the kids:) That way they are always surprised when it happens!
Well tonight I made it a carnival night/movie night. I started off by making dinner of course! Just made a very fast and simple version of beef ‘n’ noodles.
Beef ‘N’ Noddle Recipe
1 bag of wide egg Noodles
1 Jar of cheese whiz
2 cans of roast beef w/ gravy
1 can of cream of mushroom or cream of chicken if you don’t like cream of mushroom
boil noodles until done, drain add, use hands to break up beef and pour all the rest of the ingredients in the pan and Wah-La Beef N Noodles:)
Then I went on to make funnel cakes Yummy!!
2 cups flour
1 Teaspoon baking powder
2 Tablespoons Sugar
1/2 Teaspoon Salt
1/2 Teaspoon cinnamon
2 1/2 cups milk
Mix all ingredients together in a mixing bowl. Then dump all batter into a pitcher for easy pouring. heat vegetable oil up on the stove, once nice and hot pour batter in a circular pattern and then flip after a few second or until golden brown. Place on paper towel and sprinkle with powder sugar!
Then to complete our carnival food I made lemon shake ups
Lemon Shake ups
5 big spoon full of sugar
1 pitcher(large) of Lemon aid (pre made )
4 lemons cut up
fill pitcher with ice, add lemon aid, sugar and lemon slices! Then drink
After all the food was made we picked out a movie and sat down as a family to enjoy our carnival themed movie night!! We will do this again for sure:)
Well we have made it through a couple of days of this challenge. So here are my findings so far:)
The Ransom box is actually growing on me. Although I have made a few other changes to the rules for it. I did not like the fact that I was still going to have to continue picking up stuff and they just got to do a simple chore to get it out. I also didn’t like seeing the stuff that really didn’t matter just sit in there! So I told the kids that they can not get their toy out of the Ransom bow for three days, after three days they can do a chore to get it out. Since they are all older this works out much better. Especially since I have taken iPods, and cell phones, and Playstation games and Playstation controllers. The girls have even lost hair stuff, make-up and even straighteners!! They have not been happy campers at all!! But them few changes have made them all start cleaning up their stuff. I know I am so so mean LOL!!
The second thing we tried was the clutter busting game. It worked and they actually liked it. My oldest that is 12 thought it was stupid, but I made her and her attitude help:) HAHA! They all liked that it was a race, a game and got the chores done:) I have decided to use it as more of a once a month thing to keep it fun for them. Also the chores when everyone is trying to win, don’t get done as well as they should if it was not a game! otherwise it’s a great tool to get things done around the house that don’t always get done:) Like cleaning out toy boxes, cleaning windows, organizing cabinets etc.
We also put into effect yesterday our whining, complaining, and arguing Jars. So far its working well, except when you take out money for whining or anything it cause more whining and begging, not to take out the money! So I need to devise a plan lol! My thinking cap is still on for this one! I will update as soon as I think of a solution!
Today we start the time out bottles, for my younger kids and daycare kids:) Its going to be a fun project all 8 of us do together. I will let you know how it turns out and how the kids take to it as well! I hope all my little tweaks and suggestions are helping you and your families to a more peaceful summer!!
- The Ultimate Challenge! 31 days To Get Well Behaved Kids! (bythetimeicounttofive.wordpress.com)
- 31 Day Challenge..Quick Update! (bythetimeicounttofive.wordpress.com)
Well so far the Ransom box works, but I am not sure I like that it’s up to them when they pick a chore to get it out! I mean like I said before I have put a 2 week limit on it. I like more structure than that gives. I am going to keep it up for at least the whole week:) They seem to like doing it though!
On the upside it really gives you an idea about what has value to your kids! I know I put a couple of play station games in there and the play station controllers and they were out in no time, but the baby doll clothes have stayed in there along with the baby. At least until they decide to play house.
The one we will be introducing today is clutter busting game!! I am really excited for this one!! I think it will work out great for our family.
That is all the updating I have so far! post your results below!! see you tomorrow! How many would be in favor of seeing a video of how the stuff has worked at the end of the week????
- The Ultimate Challenge! 31 days To Get Well Behaved Kids! (bythetimeicounttofive.wordpress.com)
I know I have seen a lot of blogs about a 31 day challenge to make a better blog or 31 day challenge to post 100 post. So I thought well, what if I challenged parents to getting their house back? To Make their kids better behaved and to have a more peaceful enjoyable time raising the kids.
Being a stay at home mom can be stressful and really hard work, but I know every mom has had one of them days where they think they can not take anymore! You feel like the kids are running a circus act and you are the star of their show. I have read post about kids being to spoiled and how mothers let the kids walk all over them.
Well it’s time for us mothers to ban together and take a stand right here and now on the world wide web! Together as a united force with support every night from moms just like us we can have a great rest of the summer.
No my kids were not that bad today but they have been! I also realize that they act a lot different with me than when their dad is home(they walk all over me) I want to change that I want to see what techniques work and what ones don’t, and I want your help!
My plan is to try 31 different things so I will implement 7 new house rules on Monday! I want all of you parents to join me. So we can discuss what ones worked and what ones were just plain stupid! I want to hear all of your experiences and how you changed the techniques I give you to meet your families specific needs. I also want to hear your what you have tried or what works for you.
On Monday these are the new things we are putting into effect, I would love to get all of you parents to try them with me! Please feel free to post this on your sites or share it as you wish!
1. This technique is supposed to stop them from leaving their stuff all over the house for mom to clean and learn to clean up after themselves. It’s called Mommy’s Ransom Box. You get one of the big totes from Wal-mart.
Every time your little one leaves out a toy, you put it in your ransom box and they have to do a chore to get it back. I made my own twist on it though. I know my kids and they would let it sit forever. So I am putting a two week limit on that item in the box. If it sits in there for two weeks and they have not done what they need to get it out of the boy I will either throw it out, give it to Goodwill, or put in my yearly garage sale! This takes away the stress of threatening that you are going to throw out their toys, and i figure if they can go two weeks without it then they really don’t need it.
2. The clutter busting game. All of my kids are very competitive and will love the idea of trying to beat their brother and sisters and even mom and dad. This is how it works. You get a large basket and buy ping pong anr write all kinds of different chores on them. You give them a set time 30 min or an hour whatever you want. Whoever at the end of the allotted time has the most completed chores gets a prize. It could be money, no chores the next day, or a prize.
3. The Dollar System. I went online and printed off free printable money here. This is to keep them from spending hours on the internet, games, or watching t.v. It also helps them to get stuff done, that you want them to do:)
The following are ways the children can earn $1:
Make their bed, get caught doing something nice for their brother or sister, doing what they are told, reading a book, finishing chores, walking the dog, memorizing a bile verse the list could go on and on you choose how they earn it.
The following are things they can buy for $1:
Movie night with parents, watching however many t.v. shows, playing for an allotted time online, talking on the phone, again the list could go on forever!
If they save up their dollars they have earned then you can do something more special like take them for ice cream of out to get an outfit or toy it’s all up to you You can change the amount also like $10 dollars to go get ice cream or $3 dollars for a whole movie. That’s just some ideas, I can not wait to hear what all of you do!!
4. I don’t know about your kids, but mine whine all the time!! So I have found an idea called the Whining Jar.
The Goal is to get your kids to do stuff without whining. So you put a set amount of quarters(I think I will use nickles), and every time they whine you take money out! At the end of the week they get to keep they money in the jar. Every kids get to make their own jar and wha-la hopefully no more whining LOL!!
5. The Time-Out Jar. You need fine glitter, hot water, and clear gel tacky glue. You mix them all together and when the glitter settles to the bottom the time out is over:) For the best tutorial I have seen to make these go to the link I have in blue above The blog is Called My Crazy Blessed Life.
6. One of my favorites is the Tattle Monsters! I can not wait to do this. The kids get to have fun making them and I hopefully don’t have to hear, MOM! She is looking at me, she touched me, she has my toy, or whatever they come up with that day.
Kids write down non-emergency tattles that can wait and put them in here. At the end of the day they decide if it’s still important enough to bring to you. and then you decide what you are going to do about it:) Click here for the blog I got it from and a step by step tutorial!
7. Last but not least the one I can not wait to try called The Road Trip Clips.
This is so stupid simple I wish I would have known about this 12 yrs ago, when my oldest was born! I get so sick of saying I will turn this car around! I hate hearing them all 5 constantly fighting in the back seat, or every time I go into the gas station hearing get us something. They get the same response every time for what acting like fools LOL!! Okay back to how it works. Make One clip for each kid, if they are sweet, clip stays up, if they are not, clip comes down. Everyone with a clip on the visor gets a treat at the next stop. You could even revise is and do something for the store. Like make a clip for the shopping cart, and at the end whoever has a clip still on the cart get a treat!!
I really hope you all enjoy this and come back to see what else I have to post! I Would love to hear what my readers think and want. What problems you have with your kids that you would like to see corrected?
Well lots of work to do now before Monday to get all this started!! I will be updating every detail about how this project works!
- Cork That Whine Get your kids to stop making ‘the most annoying sound in the world’ (theinsider.retailmenot.com)
- An App That Prompts Children to Do Their Chores (gadgetwise.blogs.nytimes.com)
- I’m A MOM…….Whats your super power? (bythetimeicounttofive.wordpress.com)
- ChoreMonster Rewards Kids for Doing Household Chores (betakit.com)
- ChoreMonster App Nudges Kids To Get Things Done (mashable.com)
Family Beliefs: Morals and Values
helping kids develop strong morals and values
Family morals are beliefs that families have about right and wrong, and good and bad. Morals are the foundation of discipline. Discipline teaches children to make good choices, to cooperate, and follow the rules. This is important, because without the moral basis of “right and wrong,” Kids would feel confused about boundaries, and wouldn’t be able to make proper moral judgements!
Family values are the moral guidelines that family members believe have worth. When a belief has worth it has value. So if you are teaching your kids no hitting , no fighting, be respectful. Those are all morals you expect your child to practice. So my question is where do parents blur the lines, and think that any of their morals will have worth when they themselves don’t follow their own moral beliefs? Like its not OK for the kids to hit the dog, but it is OK for you? Or don’t hit your brother, but you walk over and hit him to make him stop hitting? I don’t understand lol. So the moral of treating people and animals with respect is then thrown out the window, and will have little value! If your morals are to have worth, then shouldn’t everybody in the family practice what they preach?
Accompanying an emotional component to the learning experience truly is the difference weather something has value or not. These experiences can be good or bad. What I mean is this…you remember all the great things that you did or had during your childhood. You also remember the horrible experiences or even traumatic things. The good memories make you feel good,smile, and have good thoughts. Negative feelings make you mad,hurt, maybe even resentful. Which is why you are less likely to recall these moments in life, although they influence our daily decisions and morals. Some parents feel that where there is pain there is gain???? I know that my kids will fall down and get hurt, or have broken hearts, and maybe even do really stupid stuff like a slip ‘n’ slide in the kitchen. But in no way would I want them to feel pain. What could they possibly gain from that? How would incorporating unpleasant experiences around a lesson teach them anything? Yes they will learn from broken hearts, or a bump on the head, but as a parent arn’t you supposed to try to protect them? Children are threatened with a spanking, or even loss of parental love if they even think about doing something bad.
“Are you asking for a spanking” (what kid would say yes, please spank me?)
Stop crying before I give you a reason to cry? HUH? yes you want your kid to stop crying, so in order to make her stop your going to cause her pain???? This makes perfect sense ha ha!!
The only moral that is being learned is not a positive one. It’s showing them how to make threats, or bully people, and using violence to get what they want. I have spanked my kids I am not going to say that i havn’t but it don’t happen very often, and I always feel horrible after it. I believe if spanking was the right thing to do then why do so many parents feel the need to say they are sorry after? Don’t we apologize for stuff we did wrong?
To sum all this up, the goal of getting kids to have positive moral beliefs and family values In treating others with respect has to be a learning experience that exemplifies what parents want their kids to learn.
- Family Beliefs: Morals and Values (bythetimeicounttofive.wordpress.com)
- What is Nurturing Parenting: The Approuch (bythetimeicounttofive.wordpress.com)
- Silly Grownups…Spanking is for NOT for Kids (thedisciplineofmary.wordpress.com)
- How To Talk To Parents About Gentle Alternatives To Spanking (touchstonez.com)
- April 30th Is National Spank Out Day: Does Spanking Even Work? (blogher.com)